When patience runs thin

It has been raining all day in St. George today & the weather seems to match my mood.
I am so sick of "adults" telling everyone to enjoy being a young single adult and referring to us as if our lives are perfect and we have no problems, just because we aren't married.

I realize that life is going to get harder once I'm married. and then even harder once I have kids. But at the same time, just because I am a 20 year old young single adult does not mean I have no feelings, problems, or struggles in life.

Speaking for all young single adults, more specifically ones in the LDS world- it gets really annoying to hear about how easy our lives are. Yet we are constantly being told that this is the most important time in our lives and we need to get married to the right person. And we are constantly being told that it is the biggest decision we will ever make (I agree) and not to screw it up. Not to mention the fact that if you are an LDS girl who makes it to 24 years old, people start wondering what's the matter with you. And in the meantime, all of your friends are happily getting married to the man of their dreams, graduating from college, and moving on with their lives. While I am still here, trying to figure it all out. These are only eternal decisions that affect the rest of my life. No stress, right?

And while I'm complaining, I miss high school, and last summer. Right now I live with the two MOST antisocial girls in the world...or in other words, I live by myself. My best friend lives in Provo. My home is in Idaho. And I am here, just going to school. and trying to figure things out. still. Patience is one of those lessons that you just have to learn by experience, and most days it is something that I have to focus on. Today I'm not doing too well.

I just have one more thing to get out. When I am a mother, I will not be rude or ignorant to people that my children date. I will do my best to realize that everyone is human & no one is perfect, no matter how much I want my kids to find someone that is perfect in every way- that is never going to happen. Being rude to them only makes matters worse and it does not help the situation at all. I know I know, I don't understand the whole "protective mother" thing because I am not a mother yet. However, don't you think if you REALLY loved your child, you would learn to get out of the way so they could live their life and learn from it? Just like you had the option to do when you were young?  Just a thought. And if that isn't enough, whoever your son or daughter is marrying(Or even DATING for that matter. They don't have to be married to have feelings) is A PERSON. with feelings. and hopes. and dreams. and everything else. . So they should be treated as such, rather than just some observer at the dinner table when they make the effort to come to your house for dinner. Because trust me, they aren't coming for the food...so be nice.

Sheesh.

Ok just had to get that out. I'm done. Tomorrow will be better.